Conflict is a normal occurrence in socialization. It is the point of disagreement between two people in their views or opinion on a particular issue. Even among two best lovers, quarrel and misunderstanding are oftentimes inevitable. This is because we all are separate individuals with different reasoning and temperament. So there is no conflict-free interaction or relationship. There is no conflict-free marriage. The presence of conflict or misunderstanding in a relationship or marriage does not suggest absence of love or unity rather strengthens the fact that we are simply humans with our different views.
Managing conflict in a relationship is usually a task. Our ability to carefully manage conflicts determines how successful we are in our dealing with people. Conflict can be in two fold; inner conflict and outer conflict. The former suggests feelings that negates love and harmony such as jealousy, inferiority complex, envy and bitterness, while the outer conflict manifests in disagreement, quarrel, argument and misunderstanding. Outer conflict is a product of inner conflict. From within to the outside.
By and large we can manage conflict which has the tendency of arising in our human interaction always.
The following can be helpful in resolving conflict.
1. Understand that conflict is normal in relationships either among couples, colleagues, family members or business associates.
2. Engage constructive dialogue in settling outer conflict. Dialogue involves being assertive. We can be firm and same time friendly, that is employing diplomatic measures.
3. Be open with no reservations on the causes of the conflict. Let the other know what caused the problem.
4. Don't criticize or judge. Instead of trying to prove who is right try to see what is right. That is evaluation.
5. Always be willing and quick to apologize and forgive so as to move on.
Conflict abounds but harmonious coexistence is a conscious effort we decide to make.
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